Yesterday my husband and I were chatting about our sex life and I asked him “how many times a week, is ideal for sex” y’all his answer had me shook. He proceeded to tell me that 4-5 times a week is ideal for him. Now if you’re anything like me you’re already tired just thinking about it. However, I’ve been feeling really guilty about how much time I spend working. So I come up with a solution to meet him half-way. 4-5 time a week is a lot for me so instead of focusing on quantity we’re going to focus on quality. This inspired me to put together a list of thing I do to help you keep things fun and fresh in the bedroom. Remember quality over quantity!
𝙋𝙧𝙞𝙤𝙩𝙞𝙯𝙚 “𝙪𝙨“ 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚: Make time, to make time for your spouse. It’s a non negotiable. Seriously, when you put everything else in the way of spending time with your spouse you allow distance between the two of you. I don’t care if it’s 5 minutes of 5 hours. Make time for y’all and enjoy it!
𝙎𝙥𝙚𝙣𝙙 𝙦𝙪𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙮 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙤𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙦𝙪𝙖𝙣𝙞𝙩𝙮: once you’ve made time make sure it’s quality. Give your spouse undivided attention. Have conversations about things other than the kids, work and responsibilities. If you have to buy some cute couples games go for it. A little bedroom candy ain’t never hurt nobody. Play some games, have some fun and watch the sparks fly.
𝘿𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙐𝙥: I love lingerie but, I never buy it because I don’t wear it very long. Some men love it when you put on something a little sexy and show off. So do you girl, order that cute little number from Savage Fenty, or Victoria Secret. Show your man what’s he’s been missing under your lounge wear. Not only does this make you super sexy to him, you feel sexy and that’s ultimately the best recipe for a fun night.
𝙎𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙘𝙝 𝙐𝙥 𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙇𝙤𝙘𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣: it’s easy t
o fall into a mundane routine. Switching up where you have sex can help to change that. Yury and I have had a pretty spontaneous sex life (we will talk about that on another blog post) and we’ve always been fans of switching up the scenery. Get creative, do it somewhere you’ve never done it before. shock your spouse. He just might like it!
Listen, it’s hard to keep the spark once you have kids, especially when everyone is home 24/7. Implementing one of this small suggestions will help tremendously. what are you waiting for? Go have some fun!